We now have reality TV, teens getting plastic surgery because they aren’t happy with their nose, OCD, anxiety, depression, “selfies” Photos, and we too often we’re not just striving to reach perfection we’re dying because of it.
The stress of trying to reach perfection alone isn’t healthy if it becomes obsessive.
Confession # 1: I have cramped crooked teeth I’d like to get fixed but that has happened yet. This is the main physical flaw I’d like to fix. However, life is more than straight teeth so guess what I’m thankful for the one’s I have right now crooked or not!
Confession # 2: After playing the piano I often say “Oh, thanks but I’m rusty right now.” And basically tell people I don’t think my piano playing is good enough yet. My husband says it sounds so prideful because they think it’s sounds beautiful now… but I don’t hear much of the beauty… I hear the mistakes. I’m horrified I’ve been saying this and sounding prideful all these years.
Confession # 3: I talk too much to friends and family all the time and then I apologize for it and make the mistake of talking more…geez!
Confession #4: I don’t mind the house not being perfect but I still have this urge to at least tidy up before I head out the door.
Confession #5: I’m too hard on myself about what I say or do and then it gets harder to start saying and doing the right thing because I’m so stressed about the wrong thing I already said… or did. LOL! Does that even make sense?
Confession #6: Sometimes I miss my devotional time with God, and it’s not usually in the morning as I’m actually more awake at night.
Confession #7: If I make a daily or any goal list it’s often too long and I have a hard time getting it all done. Exhausted, I then realize I need to slow down sometimes and make smaller lists, the perfectionist in me just wants to get everything done today!
Confession #8: I sometimes fall asleep without brushing my teeth!
Confession #9: I have the amazing ability of driving away people by over talking about medical… or just over talking in general.
Confession #10: Being high goal oriented I take on too much sometimes and then get burnt out… learning to find balance is key!
Confession #11: I hate asking for help because I feel like I’m “bothering” someone else who’s busy but know that often times he/she is glad to help and I like to be as independent as possible.
Confession #12: I still walk into a room or meeting and really hope know one “sees” me. The little shy girl in me is still in there somewhere and I have to face her every time I’m out in public it seems.
Confession #13: Only recently have I stopped carrying the weight of trying to please everyone and the internal tally button of everything I may or may not say or do that’s acceptable has finally been shut off.
Confession #14: I want to be able to exercise almost daily but I’m finally ok with it if I can’t. I can only make it through like 3-5 minutes of Pilates and then feel like I’m dying! (ok, I do have medical reasons for this but still I used to play tennis for hours)
Confession #15: Growing up I prayed for God to make me look like Pocahontas with long dark hair and skin. I had long blonde hair and white skin… so white it glowed! Why can’t I just be happy with what God gave me?
Confession #16: I crave smore’s and brownies on a regular basis, and sometimes I find a reason why to give in and eat the brownie!
Confession #17: The real reason I became a perfectionist was to please God and others. Now I’m learning I only need to please God and care about what He thinks! I’m harder on myself than God is, I think he wants me to forgive myself and receive love and grace instead of constantly counting all my mistakes.
Are you a perfectionist? If so about what?