King Solomon a very wise man wrote about how there is a time and place for everything in life in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
1. Breathe. The moment you feel anger rising up, take a deep breath and blow it out as slowly as possible. This helps calm you back down and it will give you a chance to think before you react.
Psalm 46:10- He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth.”
2. Moment by moment work through your anger as it comes up. What is making you angry? Is there something constructive you can do about it?
Be you angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down on your wrath:
He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalts folly.
3. Ask. Ask God for HELP! If you listen He will instruct you in what to do or what NOT to do… God is our Safe place and our hiding place we can trust Him and confide in Him at all times.
Psalm 32:7 You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.
4. Work it out. Maybe you need to go and talk to someone and confront a situation. Maybe you feel there is nothing you can do but you have a lot of anger energy. Do something physical that’s constructive like going for a nice long walk, cleaning and organizing your house, or engaging in a hobby you love.
Jesus at the Temple- Matthew 21:12- Jesus had a righteous anger here and confronted the thieves at the temple… but he didn’t harm anyone. He also instructed those who were doing wrong why he was throwing their tables over. This wouldn’t be good in many situations but in the context of what Jesus was saying it was ok.
12 Jesus entered the temple courts and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves. 13 “It is written,” he said to them, “‘My house will be called a house of prayer,’[e] but you are making it ‘a den of robbers.’[f]”
5. Vent. God is our hiding place take most of your venting to Him and He will bring you relief. Tell Him exactly how you feel about the situation and ask Him what you should do.
6. Wait. You know the moment your about to really lose it… wait. If you pause and breathe and wait you might not react in an unhealthy way.
7. Process it daily. You will get angry even Jesus did! But process this daily because if you hold on to it for too long you will become bitter. Your angry bitter thoughts will steal your time, your health, your joy and no one will want to hang out with you! It’s not fun or attractive to be around someone who’s bitter or angry often.
d. Do something fun each day
e. Hang out with friends
f. Shift your focus
What has been making you angry lately and how are you processing it?